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Sex Toys Buying Guide

Posted on Sep 06, 2012

We all need a sex life. So to complement the wide variety of sexual tastes, there are also a wide variety of sex toys and accessories. My guess is that if you are here checking out this buyer’s guide, you’re new to the idea of incorporating sex toys into your bedroom fun. Whether you are in a relationship or flying solo, this information will help you find the toy that is right for you.

Dildos

Dildos are your basic sex toys. Unlike vibrators, dildos (also known as dongs) generally don’t have any motors inside and therefore don’t vibrate.  As you can imagine, they come in many shapes and sizes. Some are phallic (shaped like a penis) and others more discreet in their shape. Some are small and they continue up in size until you get into the really large category.

Some dildos have suction cup bases so they stay in place during ‘sexy time.’ Others are double ended so that they can be used by lesbians or for simultaneous double penetration (vaginal and anal). Dildos are also a favorite among gay men as they generally have no added clitoral stimulators.

Vibrators

Vibrators are generally grouped into different classifications because they have different features and therefore different benefits. Here’s the breakdown.

Traditional Vibrators
Traditional vibrators are great ‘starter’ toys because they are generally simple and to the point. They may or not be phallic and can generally be used internally or externally. The sizes vary greatly depending on the intended use. If they are designed for internal stimulation, they are generally cylindrical with some kind of control for the vibration. Although there are rechargeable vibrators on the market, most are battery operated.

Clitoral Vibrators
Clitoral stimulators tend to be smaller and more discreet and are designed for external clitoral stimulation. But don’t the size fool you, good things come in small packages and these toys are generally pretty powerful. They come in all kinds of shapes. Some are wireless and some have cords that attached to the battery pack. I’m sure that you’ve heard of the bullet or egg — these have long been favorites of women throughout the world.

Clitoral simulators are also great toys for couples. Men are generally not intimidated by them and they provide the added clitoral stimulation that so many women need to orgasm.  

Dual-Action Vibrators
Dual action vibrators provide simultaneous internal and clitoral stimulation. There is generally some kind of attachment on the shaft that is designed to add clitoral simulation. If you watch Sex in the City then you’ve probably seen the rabbit vibe. That’s the one that Charlotte got addicted to.

The rabbits are the most well known dual-action vibrators, but they are many different versions. The iRide vibrator is the newest toy to expand on the concept and so far, the reviews have been great.

G-Spot Vibrators
G-spot vibrators are designed to stimulate a woman’s Gräfenberg Spot (named after the scientist who discovered named it). The tip of a G-spot vibrator is angled to stimulate this magical spot which is located on the front wall of a woman’s vagina about two inches in. Some people call the G-spot the UFO of women’s body parts because they know it’s there but it is very elusive. These toys will help you explore and enjoy the ultimate orgasm.

Male Masturbation Sleeves

Male masturbation sleeves are designed to mimic vaginal or anal penetration and oral sex depending on which model you buy. The sleeves are generally made with a soft, flexible material that feels like the real thing. The opening of the sleeves are generally molded to be lips, a vagina or an anus depending on  your preference.

In addition to masturbation, these sleeves are used by couples as intercourse bumper to prevent penetration from going to deep and becoming painful. Women also use them at the end of oral sex because these sleeves will ‘swallow’ if she doesn’t want to.

Penis Pumps

Penis pumps are air-tight cylinders that are placed over the penis. Using the attached pumping mechanism, air is drawn out of the cylinder to create a vacuum inside. This pressure increases blood volume in the penis creating a fuller, more erect penis.

Anal Toys and Plugs

Anal plugs and toys are designed for internal anal pleasure. Butt plugs are usually shaped with a tip and tapered end so that they can stay inserted. Anal toys and vibrators come in different shapes and sizes but if you’re new to anal play, you start small and work your way up. The three most important things you’ll need to enjoy anal sex are lube, lube and more lube!

Couples’ Toys

Couples toys are designed to please both partners and come in all different shapes and sizes, and are used in different ways. Cock rings are generally applied to the man and offer clitoral stimulation during intercourse. The We Vibe is a unique vibrator that is worn while making love. One portion goes inside the vagina for internal stimulation for both partners while the other portion remains outside for clitoral stimulation for her.

Lubricants

There are a variety of different types of lubricants. Which one is right for you? 
Choosing the right lubricant will ensure the most comfortable sexual experience for you while at the same time preserving the life of your sex toys. The following is just “the basics” for selecting a lubricant; refer to all of the lubricants Xandria sells for more information on each type. 

Does the type of lube make a difference? 
The answer is yes – selecting the right lubricant for your needs and your toy’s needs is essential. Depending on the material your toy is made of, choosing the wrong lubricant can actually damage your toy. Water-based lubricants are ideal for use with any sex toy. Silicone lubricants should not be used on silicone or Cyberskin toys – the combination might actually cause your toy to melt or misshapen. Petroleum or oil-based lubes should not be used in the vagina to prevent the growth of the bacteria that causes yeast infections. 

You’ve made your choice; now what?
Before using a lubricant for the first time, you should test a small amount – for example, a pea-sized drop – by applying it directly to the toy as well as to your own skin to see if there is a reaction. If there are no side effects, you will definitely want to coat both the lubricant and yourself before inserting the toy. This is especially important for products entering the anus. Add more lube when needed during your sex play. One neat thing about water-based lubricants is it can be reactivated by just a small amount of water. Some men and women keep a small spray water bottle by their bedside for this purpose. 

All done, what’s next?
Most lubes, especially water-based ones, will wipe off your body easily with only a damp cloth. To clean your toy, wipe off any excess lubricant and then clean your toy as usual.

For more information

We could not possibly cover all of our products in this guide. If you have questions about a specific product or just need more information, please call one of our friendly customer care representatives.